Vs. 30 “for we are members of his body, of his flesh, find of his bones.”
In the preceding verse we read,
“For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but
cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.” The church
is the body of Christ, He is its
“…Thou oughtest to behave thyself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth” (1 Tim. 3:15).
The church is the repository and custodian of all divine truth in this age. In commissioning the church the Lord made her His executive body on earth. He entrusted her with the guardianship of His word, and the proclamation of His word. (Matt. 28:18-20). Ten days after Christ’s ascension to His exalted position at the right hand of His Father (Heb. 1:3), and in fulfillment of His promise to authorize and empower the church to perpetually and successfully carry out the commission unto the end of the age He sent the Holy Spirit to indwell the church, (Lk. 24:49, Acts 1:8, 2:1-4). While the bride is not promised and easy voyage upon the sea of time, she is guaranteed a safe arrival in glory, Christ is going to present the church to Himself, spotless, blemishless, wrinkleless, and infinitely holy (Eph. 5:27).
The bride and groom relationship is the ultimate union, and it is on this axiom Paul says to the church at Ephesus and too all true churches everywhere, “we are members of His body.” The church is not something apart from Him, but vitally and viably connected to Him. All the redeemed are in Christ, but all the redeemed are not viably connected to Him. A paralytic son is one of a family, and is loved most dearly by his mother and father, but is impotent to contribute meaningfully to his parent’s pursuit of livelihood. Saved persons outside the church (“His body”) get their spiritual livelihood via the Lord’s churches.
Each member of the church is a
veritable part of Christ’s body, and is nourished by the head.
To be excluded from the church is to suffer spiritual paralysis,
but worse, it leaves one to lean on their
own strength, and thereby invoke Divine chastisement.
The honor which a son is to pay his father and mother does not end with marriage, the love which a son has for his parents is not abolished by his taking a wife, but his love for his wife is to transcend all other human relationships. The proper love between husband and wife will produce an intimacy of such nature that their lives will be laminated, or glued together, as to become “one flesh.” The taking of a wife by a son should not diminish his love for his parents, but conjugal love is superior to that of filial love, yea, it is the strongest love there is, apart from one exception, and that is, the believer’s love for his Saviour, Jesus Christ.
The believer’s love for Christ is
the ultimate love that a human can experience; it should
transcend by infinite distance all other of his loves. While man
is to “leave his father and
Lk. 18:29-30 “and he said unto them, verily I say unto you, there is no man that hath left house, or parents, or brethren, or wife, or children, for the kingdom of God’s sake, who shall not receive manifold more in this present time, and in the world to come life everlasting.” (See also, Mk. 10:29 & Lk. 14:26).
While we are not to equate the
church with Christ, it is nevertheless true, to love Christ is
to love his church, and to love the church is to love Christ.
The believer’s love for Christ can only be manifested by a
proper relationship with the church. Children’s disobedience to
the wife is considered by the true husband as disobedience to
himself, and Christ considers the disobedience of members toward
his church as disobedience to Himself.
A spouse that would stand in the
way of his/her mate’s dedication to the church opposes
themselves, and cannot help but be the loser. Human love
be it ever so strong is ever in
jeopardy unless it has for its foundation love for Christ, for
it is love for Christ that begets and perpetuates lasting love
between husband and wife, and all others.
All through the narrative Paul
highlights the responsibility of the conjugal union, he says to
the wives, “wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as
unto the Lord.” Then He says to the husbands, “husbands, love
your .wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave
Himself for it” (Eph. 5:22, 25).
“This is a great mystery. . .” the “mystery” Paul refers to is no longer a mystery, for though it was hid for ages, it has been revealed to Paul and through him to all the churches. Paul uses the word “mystery” six times in his letter to the Ephesians, and in every instance it has reference to something already revealed. In Eph. 6:19, he requests prayer that he “…makes known the mystery of the gospel.” To make it known is to foreknow it.
The mystery disclosed places Jews
and Gentiles in the body (church) of Christ with equal rank,
there is no spiritual inferiority in Christ which results from
race. Paul’s responsibility was clearly delineated in the
revelation given him by Christ. In this vision
“…let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself…” “Everyone of you,” and to make it all the more emphatice he adds, “in particular.” So, no husband is exempt, all are to love their wives as he loves himself, and to facilitate his love, he is to acknowledge that his wife, according to the pattern is part and parcel of himself. Wife, revererence your husband. The duty of the wife is to respect, duty of husband – deserve respect.